Simplify your life - Learn to Say no

How difficult it is to choose one thing which gives you temporary uneasiness with lasting happiness over a thing which gives you temporary happiness with lasting pain. It takes lot of courage to say no to anything and everything which cost your peace of mind in exchange of temporary pleasures, We often overlook the value of our peace of mind and we realize it when it gets late and we are unable to afford our own peace of mind , I love this Quote - " He is the brave man who can say No."

It asks for lot of courage and bravery to say no to the thing which your heart is dying for . We keep on saying "Yes" to the things which we should say no.

Swami Vivekananda has beautifully said after having his own experience - Most of the problems come in our life just because of not saying no at the right time. No to any evil thought, bad company, bad habit & bad  food at the right time is not as easy as it seems , because our urge of enjoying present makes us forget the consequences it has attached with. We feel lets enjoy today, who has seen tomorrow . We get so addicted to all these things that we can not imagine our life without all this , the one who has got into the habit of thinking negative finds difficult to see positive ,if  our body is used to of eating junk food or the food which our tongue can crave for but stomach can not afford, so we can imagine how the stomach will response later on, habits we ourselves do not know  when we fall into the trap of bad habits , Bad habit automatically finds its way while to inculcate the good one , it asks for the tirelessly efforts . To quit a bad habit at the right time is just liking taking a bitter medicine to cure yourself immediately . When we say no to the things , firstly we feel suffocated , but later on we realize that a cool breeze is coming to give us sense of happiness thousand times more than the sense of pleasure which we have said no to . Lets have a self analysis of ourselves and find out what we need to say no to  to enjoy the treasure of peace with in .

Comparision- Come in Prison

Comparison- End of the growth /Learning

Come in Prison- Means we are limited when we compare, we draw some boundaries but when we do not compare our self we are free with unlimited potential.

Comparison comes in two ways , in one way when we feel our self superior to someone and in other way when we feel inferior. Feeling oneself superior and inferior both are the weaknesses and its harmful in their own way. When we feel our self  superior- Only I can do, if I will not do, the world will come to and end , I am only the best . EGO - read something beautiful about Ego -

अहंकार एक ऐसा नशा है जो पीने वाले के अलावा सबको पता चल जाता है की इसको चढ़ गयी है |

Now other side of comparison Comes Inferiority , when we feel that i am nothing , this kind of feelings comes with a sense of fear also . I can not do anything, i do not posses any quality , we feel our self weak. 

Neither side of comparison is good . One Side Says Only I am good & other side says I am very bad .both comparison leads us towards a downfall. When we compare our self with others we degrade our value, we truly doubt at god's creation. Each one of us is unique and beautiful in their own way, someone has 'A' Quality , someone has 'B' quality , some one has combination of 'A+B' but that individual missing 'C' quality so we all are complete in our own way so we should never compare our self with anyone.

In addition to this , we should always keep our learning window open , to strive hard for our betterment and comparison if should be there then only with our yesterday that am I improving everyday. We should constantly inspire our self from someone but never compare because we are original form, we can not copy anyone but we can follow footstep of our inspirations and our ideals and try to inculcate good habits.

Power of Blessings-Source of happiness

We have chased many things at different point of times , but have we ever thought how to seek blessings . We often feel a sense of emptiness inside in-spite of having everything around , in-spite of achieving all the things which we have dreamt for, what is causing a vacuum inside us , what is missing and  when we will think ,we have received everything except blessings .

Yes,We lack blessings. If we count how many blessings we have received , I believe the figure will not come  more than one or two and its so strange that people all around us are eager to bless us but unfortunately we are not paying attention to all those things where our happiness is hidden and the most beautiful things about blessings is that we do not need to put lot of efforts or to take out special time for this .It is hidden in everything we come across in a day .Lets talk about how -

Our words should be like that when some one hears it out, he fills with energy and he gets life in our words, he should get the hope to live .

 We should listen with empathy , if one wants to take their heart out , we should be ready to listen patiently not with the desire to reply with framed dialogues,but just that a person should feel light.

 A smile can get us lots of blessings , it can make someone's day.

A pure vibes and glance is enough to make someone feel good .

To help someone in any way , if an old lady you found standing in a metro give a person your place to sit , if some one you come across is unable to lift baggage, just give your hand , if you are hiring an  auto sometime gives the driver extra rupees , do not bargain much with street vendors and vegetable sellers , give a tip to waiter on restaurant, get a cup of tea to the maid who clean your house and sometimes just loose the game with kids , show up unexpectedly to the one who is missing you .

There are thousand ways to seek blessings but blessing asks you to do the things without the intention of getting anything back from the person because God is watching everything & he will give us what we are giving to . Do this exercise while going to sleep just spare 2 minutes to rewind the whole day and count the blessings you have received , do not sleep comfortably if its less than 5 in a day and you will see the magic of finding back the happiness which was lost on the way. Just live for others and find your happiness there.

Earn Blessings and Count at the end of the day and increase

your balance everyday , Make sure you are in a profit from every passing day.

Power to ignore- " Om Ignoray Namah"

I recently came across with this magical mantra " Om Ignoray Namah", it says to ignore everything other than "OM", I observed and felt that the reason of our unhappiness is to store everything which actually meant to be ignored.

To Ignore the words which hurt me .Words have no existence and God has given two ears , the words which are not applicable to me should be return to sender and feel its a wrong number and should just pass through second ear in the Air, When someone wrongly sends us any parcel which actually does not belong to us , what we do ? do we keep it or we shall return the same to sender. So ignore every word which does not add any value to our life and to Focus on OM , with always open to learn and work upon our mistakes.

Ignore the thoughts  which saddens me , Thoughts which creates our world, Is not it strange that thoughts are nothing but actually they are everything . Whatever happens with us happen for very short period of time but we carry the same via our thoughts during our life time , if we are living only in thoughts why we think beautifully and ignore the noises of all the doubts , fear, insecurities and anything and everything which creates havoc in our mind and embrace the thoughs which makes us feel light and confident.

Ignore the conversation which may lead to arguments, distance yourself in such situation , let other person win . Sometime victory is hidden in defeat so lets ignore the conversations which make us uncomfortable.

Ignore the food which I crave for , but the same is not good for my stomach. Ignore the hurt when someone does something wrong with us , Ignore when the wish does not get fulfilled , Ignore the bad behavior of a person who you deal with may be regular. Ignore the bad habit of the person which irritates you , Ignore the problem which troubles you.

Most of the times everything gets sorted out with time , where we do not have any control just ignore. OM Ignoray Namah.

Anything and Everything which takes away my strength , which distance me from my original form "OM", I Ignore everything " OM Ignoray Namah"

I have found my peace in this mantra , Hope you will also get there.

 

"Knowledge is good but Ignorance is bliss"

When we read it, it confuses us  how come ignorance is bliss when we all run after knowledge every time. What ignorance is exactly ,Ignorance means just to ignore the things , problems and everything around us which gives us pain. Being Ignorant does not mean we are unaware and outdated with the present world but it means we are ignored with all the kinds of  worldly talks , we are happy and content with in ourselves, We are ignored from all the kinds of comparison & competitions. We are content with what we have received. In order to being ignorant we need to loose our wisdom of I am someone. Because this is the knowledge we have received from the world since we are born.

Knowledge has always made us more egoistic , higher the knowledge , more  difficult for us to keep our window open to learn because we feel that we know everything. When we feel ignorant we always feel there is scope to learn, we always have the attitude that I do not know this, we have good listening skills that time . We are more humble when we are ignorant and when we are humble it means we have deep knowledge . When we have internal knowledge then we can be ignorant and when we only have external knowledge, its one more Step to add up into our ego.

An example which I truly Admire -
One day three students went to learn harmonium from a teacher . When they asked for the fee to learn the same , Teacher asked your fee depends on how much you already know.
The first student said i know it, I am quite good while playing , I am here just for more practice , Teacher said your fee is $100, now second student comes , he says I know how its being played but  I am not so good at this, want to learn better , Teacher said your fee is $ 50 , now third student comes He says, Sir i do not know at all , I am learning it for the first time , Teacher says your fee is $ 10 . All the students baffled while hearing the fees and they asked why such variation and its higher for the one who knows it already and lesser for the one who is total novice at this .Teacher replied - the one who does not know it at all, I have to make him learn from beginning, he does not have his own knowledge about it , he will listen me carefully without using his own mind and will believe what I am saying is correct , so he will take my less time and efforts and  the one who knows it completely will always doubt at my capabilities and will always go with his own tune , will take my more efforts and time , so the fee is just for forgetting what you already know .

"When we forget what we know then only we can further know hence ignorance is bliss and knowledge is just good."

Do not judge anyone; everyone has their own story.

We keep on judging everyone whoever and whatever comes on our way;” We are not born to pass the judgments but just to love everyone and everything.” It has become our habit, everything which our eye catches we have a pre-conceived notion about it, everyone we meet we create an image and when we meet the same person next time; we meet with the same image which our mind has created.

Why we are judging anyone we do not have any idea of their story, what their journey is all about, what was their past, the family they born in, their situations, their karmas, their Sanskar ( which are since births), still we give everyone our certificate of what they are . We think you are good, you are bad. Stop judging and unnecessary adding new karmas in your karmic account. We have no right to say that this is right and this is wrong, you should do this, and you should not have done this, why this person acts like this. There is some reason behind everything and we are not supposed to know the reason of everything but there is reason behind all.

In Bhagwat Geeta , Shree Krishna said “ Every human being has born with their own set of Sanskar of past lives , do not try to change anyone ."

Neither we have to judge or nor we need to seek changes in anyone; everyone is perfect and beautiful in their own way, as everyone is made by God and God makes no mistakes. So accept beautifully everyone without making any judgment because when we judge, we doubt at God’s ability. When we judge we forget to love that person, let’s meet everyone as we are meeting for the first time without any past image and pre conceived notion. Nothing just love and love only

Prarabdha "प्रारब्ध" is Fixed, No One can change it.

"Prarabdha" other name "Fate / Destiny" - A Bundle of good and bad experiences we get in the journey of life which is part of our past karma of many lives , which have been accumulated, which is result of both good and bad deeds . Human cannot free himself from Karmas .

Prarabdha of all the human beings is  fixed , most beautifully said

प्रारब्ध पहले रचा, पीछे रचा शरीर।
तुलसी ये जान के भी मन ना बंiधे धीर

Everything is Pre-decided by god, No one can change his Prarabdha. We put all our efforts to change our Prarabdha but its pre-decided , no amount of efforts can change our Prarabdha .

Someone is rich, Someone is so poor, Some lives long, Someone dies so early , Someone is getting married early, Someone getting it so late. Someone is longing for a single child and someone is bestowed with it without any wish.

What is this , is there any control?

No control on result but yes full control on present karmas. We cannot defend ourselves saying that it was in my Prarabdha , our past karma's made our present and our present karmas will make our future . InBhagwat Geeta Shree Krishna Said "कर्म करो और फल की चिंता मत करो" and along with that he said "अशोक रहना तेरा धरम है"means you have to put your efforts and whatever comes after that you have to accept it fully with happiness, no regret, no desire to change it but to accept it and while the desire of kings also remains unfulfilled . Let’s be happy and content our Prarabdha is good because God fulfills basic needs of every individual in our Prarabdha without any comparison.

The Door from comparison enters , happiness exists. We should notlet go it and be happy whatever we have got. Keep putting our efforts and then embrace whatever is being gifted by God.