EGO - Please let go !

Ego- itself says E - GO means it should go . EGO which  we are carrying with us from life to life and since our childhood we all have learnt that 'I' exist , 'I', 'Me' & 'My' the root of all the sorrows ,
If we recall any incident which happened in the past if we try to know the reason why i got hurt or why it made me feel bad so we will get to know its because either of 'I', Me' and 'My'.  A cancer patient could be cured but the one who has diesase of 'Ego' can never be cured, its more life threating than a disease like cancer . We often feel that if we do not show the attitude world will take us for granted & we should treat the person accordingly , I agree that being kind and nice to someone does not mean that you will let that person to walk all over you , You have to draw a line in order to maintain your peace of mind & dignity but ego is different its harmful and at each and every point our ego comes out and it compels us not to being grounded , It says loudly in our mind " I do exist"

Time keeps on changing ; Fame , Power,Money,Position,Status nothing will last ever but the love and care we are sharing with other will be in memories forever though we give these things secondary importance , primary inportance is to all the materialist things which are futile . We have so many masks on our face even we ourselves get confused which is true ; We keep on changing our behaviour we are grounded to the person who is superior in terms of power & staus while we are rude when we are dealing with a low status person we forget we all our human. Destiny & Karma are different hence someone is at high & other one is at low level because of our past karma might be today we are at something & tomorrow we could be somewhere else depends on what we are reaping today because its to be said "We have come alone & we would go alone but i don't agree i firmly believe we came along with our karma & while going we will take new karmas along with us" hence we should now concentrate what we will take at the end  so be grounded , be humble .

Art of Giving- Way to Happiness

Have we ever realized that we are always in the receiving mode , we have just learnt to receive .

We want to receive love, respect, money , fame etc. This is one of the reasons of our dissatisfaction.

We have never learnt to give . We forget "Respect earns respect, Love earns Love" . The one who gives is always richer than one who receives  and sometime the one who you ask to respect you, love you may not have the thing which you are asking for then how can a person provides you the thing which he does not possess.  Lets take an example a beggar comes to you so instead of giving him the thing what he is begging for , if we start asking the same from him so can we tell who we are.

Why can not we give the things which we truly believe in receiving.

I believe we always look to receive love who we have given , same goes for respect, care etc but we forget sometime you may get the same thing but in a different form lets  say you given respect to 'A' but may be you are receiving the same thing but not from 'A' but from 'B','C','D', We hardly appreciates  such thing because  we want in the same form but blessing showers from different corners.  Believe me, lets start realizing!
 

We have never experienced the pleasure & happiness in giving, we have only  experienced temporary happiness and lasting pain in the process of receiving. We should try the the pleasure which is hidden when you give something , Its seems tough while giving without expectation of receiving something in return.but believe me its something we truly needs .

We should try the art of giving and experience the treasure which is hidden into this which we may experience in the form of blessings . It involves sacrifices but its a beautiful feeling . Try it once I bet it would be an overwhelming experience.

Be Humble-A tree laden with fruits always bends low

We all have heard that  the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind,  I refer this quote because we often become arrogant when we receive Status ,Power, Fame, Prestige ,Respect , Love  but we do not know its matter of time , Today time is in our favour so we shall enjoy whatever is coming on your way but we should not forget that all this is transient and carries expiry date with this.

 

Often we lost our humanity  We behave like we are leading this world we forget that  we are just a puppet and God has given instructions to the nature to nurture us with his materialistic property but Instruction could be reversed anytime without any prior notice hence we  should always staty humble . Human has tendency to use its power to the some who is not equally powerful . No matter who we are and who we are dealing with (Poor, Illiterate, Old,) we should not forget our humanity .

We should be flexible not stiffed . 

 

 

Being stiff is very easy but to mould oneself  is not that easy as it seems and the brave man is the one who can do the tough task but once when mould ourself we are the true winner sometime being defeated is real victory but for that we have to shed our ego for a moment .

 

 

 

Do we really love ourselves?

If we ask anyone do you love yourself? If answer is yes then chances are person is lying let me tell you how?

Do you get angry, do you irritate, and do you get hurt, do you feel sad so how you love yourself? We have not known our self yet, we never appreciated ourselves therefore we always run after someone else. We feel jealous when we see someone is better than us and we start criticizing ourselves, We start doubting the God’s creation but everyone has his own set of qualities “Albert Einstein wrote, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

If we love ourselves we don’t need the love which we beg from everyone, we shall respect our selves

Ways to love yourself –

1 Accept yourself
2 Appreciate yourself
3 Say loud “ I love Myself” in the mirror
4 Learn to forgive yourself
5 Feel pride when you achieve something


                                

If we love ourselves then only we can love others , Our first priority is to love ourselves in order to love others . Loving oneself will boost the Confidence and will make you achieve what you are truly striving for. It will give you contentment ." Do not forget to love yourself because you are very special and unique if you do not believe just get one person who resembles you in all the attributes ,I bet you can not find it because no one like you exists on this planet. Trust me You are special in your own way.

Words are Invisible yet so powerful

Power of Words - Words are Invisible , We can not see them but they have major impact on our life.

we should be very careful while using words as well while we are receiving them. We do not have control on others but we have control and right to choose our words carefully they should be well thought before they are uttered .Words can make someone's day or spoil it completely  , How we are trapped into this invisible cage .We instantly get happy when  someone praises us , We  love to hear good words about us we never know when we are getting into this trap so badly and It gets difficult to come out of it . We feel words are real but not , they are fake, they are something which are in the air. When we get addicted to hear good and positive about ourselves We are never ready to hear anything unfavorable , Any negativity falls on our ear , we easily get annoyed  because ear is prone to hear good . We just dance to other's tune . We  give certificate to our self on the basis of others' words . We all can recall any past experience when words have impacted  us badly lets create our own unique identity and No matter if someone is praising or Criticizing us we shall move towards our improvement without getting hurt and when it comes how we shall speak so I believe words are something which defines us , we can change our mood but words once spoken can not be taken back hence words should not depend on our mood. We are in charge of our own mood , behavior so we should take a oath that we will not speak the words which hurt others because nature has a rule what you sow shall you  reap,  for a instance if you say a bad word to someone in front of 10 people until and unless you will  receive wrong words from 10 people the nature has not fulfilled its duty same goes for goods words as well . So this world is like an Echo , you will be receiving the repeatedly reflection of your own voice make sure its worth listening.

"You are master of your words until you have not spoken once they are spoken you become slave to it" 

Gift to God- Feeling of gratitude

Gratitude - feeling of expressing thanks  for everything around.

In this era we  all have must experienced that when we ask anyone how is life or how everything is going on we just get the answer " bas chal rahi hai", No one is really happy about what he has or where he is . Everyone is just living the life not actually enjoying . Do we have the answer how its possible . The dreams which are in our eyes someone must be having that pleasure which we are dreaming for but can we really feel that person is happy I believe not really and i think you totally agree on this because that person has now other dreams in his eyes . In this process of getting more we forget what we have to appreciate . We never appreciate how healthy we are , we have enough to spend, we have nice family , we have healthy mind and nature is giving all the important things which are very important for our survival. But we never really appreciate . If we prepare a list of positive things, situation and person around us and same for negatives as well , we will end up realising countless positive blessings around us and one or two negative things but we keep on crying about negatives hence we are not happy .

We have received alot but we have not appreciated what we have received without even asking. If we appreciate we feel happy , we attract more appreciation and this will make the life happier .

Higher the gratitude,  more the happiness  ( Simple rule for enjoying life ).

Happy Independence Day- Freedom from slavery of Thoughts

Today  is 15th Aug  2016 , India has completed 69 years of getting freedom from Britishers , we all know how Mahatma Gandhi had fought for our country and he finally succeeded to get us freedom , India as country got freedom  from Britisher's slavery because Gandhi had believed in Non Cooperation of evil but are we free or we are still slave to our thoughts , are we free from mind or we keep on thinking about what others will say " Log Kya Kahenge" . We all want freedom in all the ways , no one loves boundaries but we all are not free .

We are slave to our thoughts, karma , habits etc we are not truly living we are doing what our mind is instructing us to do, still we are into bad habits which is harming our body or hurting others we as a human are bounded by lot of barriers , we are slave to our own mood we are still cooperating evils in our life  how can we say we got independence lets celebrate true freedom  today by promising our self to get rid of bad thoughts/ karma and habits and let be master of your mind then we will say
"HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY"

Fullfilling a desire is like adding fuel to the fire

We often feel restless in order to fulfill a desire , We strongly believe that once desire will be fulfilled we will be in peace . We put all our effort and energy to get the wish full filled and by god grace it really gets fulfilled but whats next ??

Its the end , Full filling the desire is not the end of desire .

When desire fulfills, We feel we don't want anything now and we really feel satisfied and happy but for a time being not always . The timeline of being happy after fulfilling a desire is till the time we get another wish in the pipeline . So the state of happiness does not come when we fulfill a wish but actually when we realize to feel that I do not want anything. Because desires have not end, it just makes us restless when the same fulfilled next always is on the door to enter and make us dissatisfied hence if our desire does not get fulfilled it may be end but if its being fulfilled surely not an end.

Change is Inevitable

The thing that is certain in this uncertain world is only change, but to accept the change is something difficult. We don’t want our favorable situation to get changed and we want the bad time to get change quickly, but this both will get changed, nothing will last forever. , Once Akbar asked birbal tell me sonething which we remembers in  bad time , we will be happy and same if  remember   in happy time, you will feel bad - that was “This too shall pass”.

Life is bouquet of flower with their thorns , so good always comes with bad and bad comes along with good so if we are happy when something good happens then we should also be ready to accept when some situation changes, but accepting both the situations happily , feeling like these condition are on my way just to examine my patience and how thankful I am to god, no matter where we are trapped into. Change is part of life and changes happens for something good. Nothing stays forever, everything is passing show . So embrace the changes happily they are surely for something better.

Other is Hell

Everyone in this world is looking at others , root of all the problems is "Other" , Jealously , Comparison, hatredness, anger all starts when we look at others. Looking at others sometimes makes us feel inferior and sometimes it make us feel superiors both these things are harmful. When we feel superiority we fall in the  proud and when we feel inferior we just underestimate our self both are pitfalls for us. Those who look at others , they don't need to go hell after they die because they are living in hell.
When we let out our house we ask for the rent, we can't let anyone enter in our house without any pay then how can we let everyone to stay in our heart without any pay means how can we give our happiness to others, how can we give remote control of our life to others, we have power to make our self happy we can not rely on others for our happiness. We are creator of our own happiness not others are creator but by mistakes we all have given our controls to others.

So all mean to say is that stop looking at others , in our mind there should not be a single thought that can disturb us , "Other is hell", if we go back to past then we realize that 99 % problems that we had faced in the past was related to others , 90% people in this world are those they do not have any financial and physical problem, they have enough money, good health but bad thoughts, or there  is someone in their mind and heart . The one to who we love and hate both remain in our mind. But the one who we hate all the time irritates us so in that case forgive and forget is the best medicine, if we are forgiving others ultimately by doing this we are giving peace to our self.

So don't let anyone to enter in you mind.

Why everyone in this world is unhappy-

God  is succeed in fulfilling the needs of beggar but failed to fulfill the desires  of a king

The reason of human unhappiness  is not the unfulfilled basic needs but desire of  getting more  Everyone is looking  for the thing which he is not having, a street vendor is unhappy but a billionaire is also unhappy and this process is never ending.

Yesterday we were tense regarding our today, today we are tense for the tomorrow, but we forgot to enjoy present. 

“A Man proposes but God disposes”

A person keeps on planning something, but happens what god has planned  for us and his plan is the best.

Because- God upsets our plan and set his plan for us, because we see present and plan our future accordingly  and he sees future and plan our present.

God to a Human –“You do what you love to do
                                   But happens what I want
                                    So do what I want
                                   Then will happen what you want.”

I believe already God has given us more than requirements, More than our expectations but we are looking others and we are looking only those who have greater than us but if we observe the person who is already having a thing which we are desiring right now , that person is also not happy and asking for the more so even if got the same would we be happy, Perhaps answer is NO.

So enjoy the things that we are already blessed with.

God punishes us when he answers our prayers-

The above statement seems bit dis-satisfactory but yes this is correct, When God answers our prayers he punishes us because his answering prayers keep us away from him because once our prayer got answered we tend to be very happy, we just forget him, we again fall on  the egoism ,We just lost our self in the happiness until and unless something we again feeling missing in our life, But when he doesn’t answers our prayers We keep on remembering him, so those whom god love either don’t answer their prayers or its get answered late by him.

So if your prayers are still unanswered so feel that God loves you like anything, he does not want you to get away from him, he wants you to be closer to him.

God gives three things to his Lovers-

1-      Poverty

2-      Ailments

3-   People keep slagging them off.

So no need to worry he loves us a lot , but we need to understand his grace and love. When he does not answer our prayer he is more graceful instead of when he really hears our prayers .

The most important thing in life above everything –“Peace of Mind”

We all give value to everything in life but we tend to forget to value our peace of mind, because our peace of mind makes us to enjoy the things we are having, if we see that if our mind is peaceful we enjoy our surroundings, Food, Money , everything that come across . But if our mind is disturbed everything seems very annoying. Suppose we are enjoying food suddenly we come to know somethings that takes our peace ,the enjoyment in food seems disappeared, the money that we are having seems useless, but still everyone is running after the materialistic pleasures of life at the cost of losing their peace of mind. The millionaire wants to be billionaire; Billionaire wants to be trilionare and so on. Earning money is not bad, but if it becomes priority of life then it’s not good, its takes away everything Pleasures is lying in the small things but we takes our eyes off these things and believe if I will get this/that then I will be happy but the one who says I am happy today will always be happy one who says tomorrow I will be happy he or she cannot be happy ever. So believe today is the best day, Tomorrow never comes.

Am I free ?

If each one of us asks this question from ourselves am I free, answer would  be I am or I am not depends on the external situation  but what actual freedom is ,when you are completely free from mind. When your conscious & subconscious mind do not hold any grudges , hatredness , jealousy ,comparison ,competition , desire then  you are free , you are content , you are overwhelmed.

You feel you are blessed , you are seeking no validation & approval from anyone. you are admirer of God whatever is happening around you , you feel its happening because you want it, when you find there is no difference in your's and God's will , you both want the same,  It does not mean that the problems are not on your way , they will be there but will not shake you because your faith on God does not depend on the situations . You feel that God is always by your side, you do not have your own existence .You are free like a bird who is not bound by desires  & Ego ,a bird who is just flying having wings of faith , you re flying so high that you see all the problems are so tiny which could not 

be seen from heights .

We are free what comes on our way but we are not free to create new Karma's by our any action ,word , thought because we are already bearing fruits ( some sweet and some bitter ) of what we have already done , we can not afford to create further bitter fruits as we know we are already reaping the previous one .

"Freedom is to accept happily whatever you  have been blessed with & without."

"Freedom is to be with flow , neither in past nor in future just present." 

"Freedom is I  do not want anything ,I am content & Overwhelmed"

"Freedom is a state of mind where there is no jealousy, comparison and competition."

" Freedom is  when you bless everyone equally , there is no enemy and friend,all are you own forms "

Lets enjoy true freedom.