कीर्ति- Fame - Beware before you Fall

The biggest pitfall in life is Fame. We all wish to be famous; we want everyone knows us.

Everyone praises us. When we do something, our eyes look for acknowledgment and appreciation. It’s very difficult to stay humble after getting loads of appreciation. We forget while getting appreciation that God is doing everything, we are just a medium to get it done but inspiration, energy everything we have, given by him & we are getting fame on his behalf.

This fame is unknowingly getting us into the trap of Egotism, we start believing that credit goes to me and if I was not there, it would have not been possible but we are just a medium.

In life nothing ever stops, if its not you someone else would be, who will do it.

In the hoard of fame, we forget the Kartar (Master of all creation) because in life nothing exists without pair of opposites. Fame comes with defame. The Fame which is giving us layers of happiness today will give us suffocation of defame also tomorrow, because world is full of changes & Swing moves in both directions forward & Backward then it gives us fun. So never attached to one thing because changes always come without any pre-intimations and keep yourself grounded internally & realize the power & grace of God. This Name & Fame always keeps us away from god and we take his credit.

नाम बढ़ाई जबसे आयी तबसे किस्मत फूटी

स्वामी स्वामी भजने लगा प्रीत राम से छूटीII

I loved below beautiful lines which say everything -

Talent is God Given, be Humble

Fame is man Given , be Grateful

Conceit ( Ego ) is Self -Given , be Careful

   

Dukh Daru Sukh Rog Bhaiya "दुखु दारू सुखु रोग भइआ " - "Suffering is medicine and Pleasure is disease"

Beautifully Said in Gurbani " Dukh Daru Sukh Rog Bhaiya"

Dukh means Sufferings, Pain, Problems are medicine & Pleasure , Comforts are diseases.  When we are in pleasures, comforts we forget to remember God. In pleasures our Ego gets inflated , we get addicted to all the comforts and when we do not get the same comfort, we get irritated . All the pleasures when come, it ends up making us blind , we can not see anything beyond that , We assume that it is going to last forever. We get so busy and involved in this pleasures that we forget God and we get intoxicated with madness. Few minutes pleasures followed by everlasting pain. We enjoy for few minutes and then get punished when things which we believed were true, get disappeared .

 While Dukh(suffering)is a blessing which reminds us God every moment. Very beautifully said that who God loves, bestowed them with three things Disease, poverty & defame.  Dukh is remembrance of God , Suffering awakens us while pleasures makes us sleep so tightly that we are unable to open our eyes to the truth. As medicine is always bitter but it is for our betterment , it helps us to retrieve our lost health similar suffering is the gift given by God to regain our lost senses in pleasures. One who always remembers God, will take both equally whether its suffering or Pleasure,its acceptable to him, he never cribs in problems and never inflated with pleasures. Sukh never comes alone it has its partner attached thats Dukh and its cycle which has both ends so take  things easy and always feel blessing in disguise.Everything is a passing show will pass by its own, we shall always feel happy and blessed.

Wings of Freedom- Flying Away from Expectations

Expectations- A Borrowed Pain which does not actually belongs to us.

We have set our expectations according to our measurements and bought pain accordingly.

We have ever experienced any hurt, pain which we feel is given by someone , This is nothing just unfulfilled expectations and no one has ever told us that you can have at least this expectation from me. Expectations always hurt us , Sometimes when person fulfills our expectations, we are bound to either expect the same from that person or our level of expectations get increased and When a person turns out different than our expectations ,We feel hurt but it is no where written that a person or a situation will always work as per our will.We have assumed that everyone should behave as per my will, do we act as per others' choice, do we fulfill all the expectations of others, Can we always behave the way other wants us to behave like, I believe answer is No, if we can not fit in that situation , how can we ask entire world to work as per our wish, Every human being is free and Freedom is something which everyone  in this world will aspire and unnecessarily we are binding ourselves and other person too by our expectations while other person might not have any idea what we are expecting and we are just creating a feeling of a pain .

 Expectations are like we are in a Cage and the key of opening the cage is with someone else and the   one according to his Time,Comfort & Wish will come and make us free, till we have to experience  the helpless of making our self free and fly away. It is up to us to fly away or to wait for a person to  come and open the cage. It is our choice because the Key is with other person but cage is made up of just a glass we can break it from inside and can go out but breaking a glass requires pushing it hard against our comfort because breaking a glass might hurt our hands but will make us free similarly making our self free from expectations require a little push against our comfort of keeping expectations from everyone but its permanent freedom from the pain which we are not destined for.

"Lets break this fragile glass and fly away as we have wings of freedom"

Power of Selfless Love -Its one way traffic

Love is a Magic, We can get all the  things done in the life just by Love . Love is so powerful.

If our love is confined to few human beings or few things of our choice then its not love , Real happiness lies in the selfless love without any condition. Our love is conditional always. When someone acts as per our choice , he is our favorites and if the one gets us what we are demanding he is our well wisher and same condition we apply to God as well. When he fulfills our wishes,our faith increases .When he goes opposite to our will , We feel God has become ruthless, he has no compassion for us any more, and our faith towards god also starts diminishing. In this world if we love anyone , We need to ask do I want anything from that person , we might feel that I love without any demand but might be externally I demand nothing from someone but internally if I expect that love in return, smile , even a very small desire of receiving thanks, at least a person should give me respect , then its conditional love, When I do not want anything in return that is selfless love which flows in one direction and over a period of time it automatically start flowing from all the corner of the world, that is nature's business to give us back automatically, but our desire will never make it unconditional.

This feeling of unconditional love keeps us free. Happiness lies in freedom. If we feel that we are here just to give love to everyone , we feel so powerful because its very easy to give materialistic things to anyone , its available in  the market too but a real love is the rarest thing and no amount of money can buy it and most beautiful thing about love is that its Eternal. It is forever, It remains in the Air always , everything other than this is temporary but a self less love is beyond any power .

"When you ask for anything , you are beggar

When you give anything , you are King"

Because we can only give what we possess so instead of asking people to love us , let us everyone love without any expectation  to get it back .

Simplify your life - Learn to Say no

How difficult it is to choose one thing which gives you temporary uneasiness with lasting happiness over a thing which gives you temporary happiness with lasting pain. It takes lot of courage to say no to anything and everything which cost your peace of mind in exchange of temporary pleasures, We often overlook the value of our peace of mind and we realize it when it gets late and we are unable to afford our own peace of mind , I love this Quote - " He is the brave man who can say No."

It asks for lot of courage and bravery to say no to the thing which your heart is dying for . We keep on saying "Yes" to the things which we should say no.

Swami Vivekananda has beautifully said after having his own experience - Most of the problems come in our life just because of not saying no at the right time. No to any evil thought, bad company, bad habit & bad  food at the right time is not as easy as it seems , because our urge of enjoying present makes us forget the consequences it has attached with. We feel lets enjoy today, who has seen tomorrow . We get so addicted to all these things that we can not imagine our life without all this , the one who has got into the habit of thinking negative finds difficult to see positive ,if  our body is used to of eating junk food or the food which our tongue can crave for but stomach can not afford, so we can imagine how the stomach will response later on, habits we ourselves do not know  when we fall into the trap of bad habits , Bad habit automatically finds its way while to inculcate the good one , it asks for the tirelessly efforts . To quit a bad habit at the right time is just liking taking a bitter medicine to cure yourself immediately . When we say no to the things , firstly we feel suffocated , but later on we realize that a cool breeze is coming to give us sense of happiness thousand times more than the sense of pleasure which we have said no to . Lets have a self analysis of ourselves and find out what we need to say no to  to enjoy the treasure of peace with in .

Comparision- Come in Prison

Comparison- End of the growth /Learning

Come in Prison- Means we are limited when we compare, we draw some boundaries but when we do not compare our self we are free with unlimited potential.

Comparison comes in two ways , in one way when we feel our self superior to someone and in other way when we feel inferior. Feeling oneself superior and inferior both are the weaknesses and its harmful in their own way. When we feel our self  superior- Only I can do, if I will not do, the world will come to and end , I am only the best . EGO - read something beautiful about Ego -

अहंकार एक ऐसा नशा है जो पीने वाले के अलावा सबको पता चल जाता है की इसको चढ़ गयी है |

Now other side of comparison Comes Inferiority , when we feel that i am nothing , this kind of feelings comes with a sense of fear also . I can not do anything, i do not posses any quality , we feel our self weak. 

Neither side of comparison is good . One Side Says Only I am good & other side says I am very bad .both comparison leads us towards a downfall. When we compare our self with others we degrade our value, we truly doubt at god's creation. Each one of us is unique and beautiful in their own way, someone has 'A' Quality , someone has 'B' quality , some one has combination of 'A+B' but that individual missing 'C' quality so we all are complete in our own way so we should never compare our self with anyone.

In addition to this , we should always keep our learning window open , to strive hard for our betterment and comparison if should be there then only with our yesterday that am I improving everyday. We should constantly inspire our self from someone but never compare because we are original form, we can not copy anyone but we can follow footstep of our inspirations and our ideals and try to inculcate good habits.

Power of Blessings-Source of happiness

We have chased many things at different point of times , but have we ever thought how to seek blessings . We often feel a sense of emptiness inside in-spite of having everything around , in-spite of achieving all the things which we have dreamt for, what is causing a vacuum inside us , what is missing and  when we will think ,we have received everything except blessings .

Yes,We lack blessings. If we count how many blessings we have received , I believe the figure will not come  more than one or two and its so strange that people all around us are eager to bless us but unfortunately we are not paying attention to all those things where our happiness is hidden and the most beautiful things about blessings is that we do not need to put lot of efforts or to take out special time for this .It is hidden in everything we come across in a day .Lets talk about how -

Our words should be like that when some one hears it out, he fills with energy and he gets life in our words, he should get the hope to live .

 We should listen with empathy , if one wants to take their heart out , we should be ready to listen patiently not with the desire to reply with framed dialogues,but just that a person should feel light.

 A smile can get us lots of blessings , it can make someone's day.

A pure vibes and glance is enough to make someone feel good .

To help someone in any way , if an old lady you found standing in a metro give a person your place to sit , if some one you come across is unable to lift baggage, just give your hand , if you are hiring an  auto sometime gives the driver extra rupees , do not bargain much with street vendors and vegetable sellers , give a tip to waiter on restaurant, get a cup of tea to the maid who clean your house and sometimes just loose the game with kids , show up unexpectedly to the one who is missing you .

There are thousand ways to seek blessings but blessing asks you to do the things without the intention of getting anything back from the person because God is watching everything & he will give us what we are giving to . Do this exercise while going to sleep just spare 2 minutes to rewind the whole day and count the blessings you have received , do not sleep comfortably if its less than 5 in a day and you will see the magic of finding back the happiness which was lost on the way. Just live for others and find your happiness there.

Earn Blessings and Count at the end of the day and increase

your balance everyday , Make sure you are in a profit from every passing day.

Power to ignore- " Om Ignoray Namah"

I recently came across with this magical mantra " Om Ignoray Namah", it says to ignore everything other than "OM", I observed and felt that the reason of our unhappiness is to store everything which actually meant to be ignored.

To Ignore the words which hurt me .Words have no existence and God has given two ears , the words which are not applicable to me should be return to sender and feel its a wrong number and should just pass through second ear in the Air, When someone wrongly sends us any parcel which actually does not belong to us , what we do ? do we keep it or we shall return the same to sender. So ignore every word which does not add any value to our life and to Focus on OM , with always open to learn and work upon our mistakes.

Ignore the thoughts  which saddens me , Thoughts which creates our world, Is not it strange that thoughts are nothing but actually they are everything . Whatever happens with us happen for very short period of time but we carry the same via our thoughts during our life time , if we are living only in thoughts why we think beautifully and ignore the noises of all the doubts , fear, insecurities and anything and everything which creates havoc in our mind and embrace the thoughs which makes us feel light and confident.

Ignore the conversation which may lead to arguments, distance yourself in such situation , let other person win . Sometime victory is hidden in defeat so lets ignore the conversations which make us uncomfortable.

Ignore the food which I crave for , but the same is not good for my stomach. Ignore the hurt when someone does something wrong with us , Ignore when the wish does not get fulfilled , Ignore the bad behavior of a person who you deal with may be regular. Ignore the bad habit of the person which irritates you , Ignore the problem which troubles you.

Most of the times everything gets sorted out with time , where we do not have any control just ignore. OM Ignoray Namah.

Anything and Everything which takes away my strength , which distance me from my original form "OM", I Ignore everything " OM Ignoray Namah"

I have found my peace in this mantra , Hope you will also get there.

 

"Knowledge is good but Ignorance is bliss"

When we read it, it confuses us  how come ignorance is bliss when we all run after knowledge every time. What ignorance is exactly ,Ignorance means just to ignore the things , problems and everything around us which gives us pain. Being Ignorant does not mean we are unaware and outdated with the present world but it means we are ignored with all the kinds of  worldly talks , we are happy and content with in ourselves, We are ignored from all the kinds of comparison & competitions. We are content with what we have received. In order to being ignorant we need to loose our wisdom of I am someone. Because this is the knowledge we have received from the world since we are born.

Knowledge has always made us more egoistic , higher the knowledge , more  difficult for us to keep our window open to learn because we feel that we know everything. When we feel ignorant we always feel there is scope to learn, we always have the attitude that I do not know this, we have good listening skills that time . We are more humble when we are ignorant and when we are humble it means we have deep knowledge . When we have internal knowledge then we can be ignorant and when we only have external knowledge, its one more Step to add up into our ego.

An example which I truly Admire -
One day three students went to learn harmonium from a teacher . When they asked for the fee to learn the same , Teacher asked your fee depends on how much you already know.
The first student said i know it, I am quite good while playing , I am here just for more practice , Teacher said your fee is $100, now second student comes , he says I know how its being played but  I am not so good at this, want to learn better , Teacher said your fee is $ 50 , now third student comes He says, Sir i do not know at all , I am learning it for the first time , Teacher says your fee is $ 10 . All the students baffled while hearing the fees and they asked why such variation and its higher for the one who knows it already and lesser for the one who is total novice at this .Teacher replied - the one who does not know it at all, I have to make him learn from beginning, he does not have his own knowledge about it , he will listen me carefully without using his own mind and will believe what I am saying is correct , so he will take my less time and efforts and  the one who knows it completely will always doubt at my capabilities and will always go with his own tune , will take my more efforts and time , so the fee is just for forgetting what you already know .

"When we forget what we know then only we can further know hence ignorance is bliss and knowledge is just good."

Do not judge anyone; everyone has their own story.

We keep on judging everyone whoever and whatever comes on our way;” We are not born to pass the judgments but just to love everyone and everything.” It has become our habit, everything which our eye catches we have a pre-conceived notion about it, everyone we meet we create an image and when we meet the same person next time; we meet with the same image which our mind has created.

Why we are judging anyone we do not have any idea of their story, what their journey is all about, what was their past, the family they born in, their situations, their karmas, their Sanskar ( which are since births), still we give everyone our certificate of what they are . We think you are good, you are bad. Stop judging and unnecessary adding new karmas in your karmic account. We have no right to say that this is right and this is wrong, you should do this, and you should not have done this, why this person acts like this. There is some reason behind everything and we are not supposed to know the reason of everything but there is reason behind all.

In Bhagwat Geeta , Shree Krishna said “ Every human being has born with their own set of Sanskar of past lives , do not try to change anyone ."

Neither we have to judge or nor we need to seek changes in anyone; everyone is perfect and beautiful in their own way, as everyone is made by God and God makes no mistakes. So accept beautifully everyone without making any judgment because when we judge, we doubt at God’s ability. When we judge we forget to love that person, let’s meet everyone as we are meeting for the first time without any past image and pre conceived notion. Nothing just love and love only

Prarabdha "प्रारब्ध" is Fixed, No One can change it.

"Prarabdha" other name "Fate / Destiny" - A Bundle of good and bad experiences we get in the journey of life which is part of our past karma of many lives , which have been accumulated, which is result of both good and bad deeds . Human cannot free himself from Karmas .

Prarabdha of all the human beings is  fixed , most beautifully said

प्रारब्ध पहले रचा, पीछे रचा शरीर।
तुलसी ये जान के भी मन ना बंiधे धीर

Everything is Pre-decided by god, No one can change his Prarabdha. We put all our efforts to change our Prarabdha but its pre-decided , no amount of efforts can change our Prarabdha .

Someone is rich, Someone is so poor, Some lives long, Someone dies so early , Someone is getting married early, Someone getting it so late. Someone is longing for a single child and someone is bestowed with it without any wish.

What is this , is there any control?

No control on result but yes full control on present karmas. We cannot defend ourselves saying that it was in my Prarabdha , our past karma's made our present and our present karmas will make our future . InBhagwat Geeta Shree Krishna Said "कर्म करो और फल की चिंता मत करो" and along with that he said "अशोक रहना तेरा धरम है"means you have to put your efforts and whatever comes after that you have to accept it fully with happiness, no regret, no desire to change it but to accept it and while the desire of kings also remains unfulfilled . Let’s be happy and content our Prarabdha is good because God fulfills basic needs of every individual in our Prarabdha without any comparison.

The Door from comparison enters , happiness exists. We should notlet go it and be happy whatever we have got. Keep putting our efforts and then embrace whatever is being gifted by God.

Its nothing just a "Mind Game"

How surprisingly it is, a mind which has no physical & financial power  yet so powerful which is beyond any other power.

Mind or I can give it other name is Mann "मन".

Our physical power is 2% and 98% its mental power or mind power .Our body reacts on the basis of signal given by mind.

let’s take an example you are so tired and unable to get up , you feel like you are unable to walk now even a single step , your body has no power this is the signal given by mind that you worked hard and you are tired now , you cannot do anything , but suddenly you realized that your home has caught fire, you will not even for a second feel like you are tired and you will put your all efforts to extinguish fire , mean to say this is just that energy was within but priority was different , let’s assume you cannot run and suddenly you badly followed-up by a stray dog , you will start running like anything, so mind is there which rules the entire body.

If our mind is strong we can uproot the mountains too. If our mind accepts I am well, I am happy then physical and a financial thing has no power to make us feel that I am unwell. If our mind convinces us that I am blessed, I am rich, I have received a lot from nature, god & my surroundings then nothing in this world can make us feel low. Happiness is nothing it’s just a state of mind.

If we are waiting that tomorrow will bring me happiness so it’s just a false hope because tomorrow never comes and it brings its own challenges. Stop waiting for celebration tomorrow, let’s celebrate today. Mind it so powerful depends what you feed it with positivity, patience, love & gratitude.

let’s create the world of our choice by giving signal to mind of our choice

Desires Make us beggar while desire less makes us king

I feel the other name to be given to desire is just being sick.

Let’s talk about symptoms of Sickness -

Restlessness

Irritation

Impatience to recover fast

We feel the same when we have any desire.

Imagine whenever in our life we have come across any desire, we feel impatient to fulfill the same but we forget the fulfillment of desire is not end of desire, it’s just a gap till we are again trapped by other desire and this cycle goes on and we keep on experiencing the relief and pain, happiness and suffering goes hand in hand. This is nothing just fulfillment and Un- fulfillment of desire which keeps us happy and sad. We have grown up experiencing the same without realizing when and where is its stop. We often get confused if we will not desire, we will not grow. If we will get satisfied we will stop where we are, but do you think that our prayer gets answered or we get what we are destined for so why to ask for something which is already in our destiny and no one can give us something which we are not destined for .So why we are making desires, completion of desire is just like adding fuel into the fire there is already a fire which is burning every moment and we are adding fuel into that to make it worse, once a desire gets fulfilled , next is in pipeline we feel there is a single desire but it has a long chain attached to. We feel on completion of our desire we feel a sense of achievement, sense of happiness but this happiness lies with us till the next gets emerged , so how peaceful we will be when there is no desire, there are efforts, there is planning but no desire . Why to buy sadness when we are meant to be at peace.

“Man Proposes and God disposes “let’s stop the fight between our wish and God’s will, lets match it and feel as everything happening from my will and see the magic of our peace."

Attachment- Main reason of our Suffering and Pain

Attachment to anything and anyone brings only pain and sorrow in our life .If we have ever experienced pain in our life then somewhere it’s because of attachment , attachment to the place, attachment to the person , attachment to the position etc., we are living in the world which is full of uncertainty , filled with changes only and we are attached to the things which will change for sure , nothing remains permanent and we get attached badly to the things and people believing that it will never change , will never leave us , will stay with us, it’s great myth. The world is changeable and changes are taking place every moment, somewhere things have already changed, somewhere things are about to change, no one can refrain himself from changes, everything is changeable except the truth which is true through ages

Aad Sach, Jugaad Sach, Hai Bhee Sach, Naanak Hosee Bhee Sach

Let’s enjoy at the fullest whatever we are with at this moment , because everything is for us but nothing belongs to us forever.

let’s say we go to any of the five star hotels to enjoy our vacations, where there is good staying and dining arrangement for us, all the facilities are there for us but nothing is ours, we came there for some time and then we have to go back , we cannot take even a spoon with us from there, else we will be called as thief and we enjoy without any attachment in hotel as we very well know that we have to go back , same we have to return everything to God, it’s for us to enjoy not to take it with us, but in hotel we remember that we have to go back while in life we forget we have come to this world with return ticket.Lets not get attached to one thing, we shall start loving this as everything is a passing show , lets watch instead to become its form.

Another name of disappointment and pain-Attachment

Sit with yourself- Make an appointment with yourself

 In this era where the life is so fast and we all are just running , we do not have time to sit and relax, we feel the need to talk to others but have we ever felt the need to talk to ourselves, in morning when we wake up, we just rush for our regular routine , we do not take out 5 minutes to feel the need to sit and ask that what is going through my mind , what I am still looking forward, what is upsetting me, what is driving me , what makes me feel good, what gives me sad feeling , what I am doing , what I am thinking , no we just do not feel the need to get ourselves questioned , to know our inner status, how stable I am from inside , whatever is happening outside , how much impact it has on my mind . Sometimes  we need to pause at some moment and rewind what I am doing and why I am doing all this, it’s time to stop and come back with double force. We forget our purpose what we have come for in this world, what is costing me my peace of mind , the ultimate aim of my life is just “ peace of mind “, Do not give it to anyone , no one  deserves to take your peace , its solely yours , there is price for everything in this world so peace of mind also comes with high price .The price that we have to pay for is to control all our senses with all the force which compels us to do an act, to speak a word, to think anything wrong which gives a pleasure , gives us a temporary happiness but make sure takes our permanent peace away, Ready to pay this high price to feel blissful.

Let’s do not procrastinate anymore , take an appointment with yourself & search your peace which is within.